Love is a responsibility, not a right




I  have been learning new insight of what does it like to be in love. I think i am still sort of a child when it come to relationship to be more exact when it comes to dating. 


I met him on 9th February 2017, over a brunch at Dotty's I didn't think we will  come this far since that day. He didn't swept me of my feet but he does makes me want to have his company everyday. He is straightforward, matured and know what he wants in a relationship. He manage to make me listen to him and he decide on where to eat :) super love this. 

I think for me to have a relationship when we both are on the same energetic wave-length is very important. Looking back now i think i do have relationship that;s meaningful but i was not ready back then that's why it's a disaster. But, timing is important and it needed a perfect timing for me to know what i want from my partner. 

I'm the Emoji Generation. The tinder Culture. The Instagram Couple and i think we always have choice and it's a Choice Culture.The Comparison Generation. Measuring up. Good enough. The best. 
So back to my relationship, we fought a lot and to overcome expectation about him and about my self was quite a discover-able journey. He have help me to reconstruct the way i process information and delivering it to the people. (i mean the social media perspective) i was obsessed with it and that's basically i posted everything. There's no an air of mystery. 

Relationship is more than the “Good morning” text Intimacy. Put down the phone. Couple selfie. Shiny, happy couple. Compare. Compare. Compare. The inevitable creeping in of latent, subtle dissatisfaction. The fights. “Something is wrong, but I don’t know what it is.” “This isn’t working.” “I need something more.” And, we break up. Another love lost. Another graveyard of shiny, happy couple selfies.

It is sad that love that was supposed to be nurture are lost. i have learnt that for me it is a sequence of a lot of events and small gesture that make me fall in love with him. I have learnt that no matter how fast i want it to be, being in Love does not happen instantly it's through that process that we will felt we want to be with each other through out our life. 

i want a relationship that's free of likes, favorite, comments and share . i want a true connection where the love is build rather than get discarded after the next hit . 

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